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Learning To Value The Time When Your Hair Appears to Be “Dead”

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No Pun intended. Hair is already dead. The second it leaves the hair follicle in your scalp, it’s dead. That’s why it doesn’t hurt when you cut it. But, I digress.

I’m talking about that in between stage of hair growth. It’s when you know your hair is not breaking off and you’re doing everything you know to do (healthy hair practices, following a hair regimen that work for you etc.) but your hair appears to stall.

Your hair appears to be the SAME length month after month.

It could be that you’re in the resting phase of hair growth (the Telogen phase) or it may be that your growth has slowed up significantly (It’s common with aging). Whatever the cause, that period of time is when you can really connect with your hair – get to know it even better. You’re going to have to develop some patience. I know. I don’t like that word either. BUT…

When you get to a point when you realize that nothing you do to “force” hair growth is going to work, that’s when you are able to settle down a bit and actually enjoy your hair in whatever stage it’s in.

I have been so disappointed with my hair growth this past year. I have done EVERYTHING to grow it to my next mini-goal length yet I stay stuck at arm pit length in the front and bra strap length in the back. I’ve taken supplements and massaged my scalp with natural oils and done the Greenhouse Effect Method, and done a bit of inverting. This, altogether with protective styling, low manipulation styling, deep conditioning and moisturizing regularly. I examine my hair and trim off damage as needed. I don’t heat style and I follow every health hair practice imaginable.

So, why does my hair appear to be stuck in a rut? I don’t know. What I do know is while I’m not giving up on my goal of waist length hair, I’m done sweating it. If it doesn’t happen for another 3 years, I’m just going to let my hair be.

Recently, I decided I would braid my hair up in a few large braids and just let it be. My braids stay neater looking than my twists but when the hair gets frizzy, I’ll just re-braid it.  It doesn’t appear to be doing anything special – no real growth. So, I’m going to leave it alone until it decides to wake up!

Seriously though…

When you know you are doing what you are supposed to be doing to care for your hair but don’t notice any real growth and you know there’s no breakage, just leave it alone for a while. Stop with all the product sampling and daily styling.

But, just as important as stopping all of that – stop looking at others with hair at the length you desire. It’s counter-productive.  Not only will it cause you angst (and maybe a little jealousy), it’s really not going to make your hair grow any faster.

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Yes, you can appreciate the beautiful manes of hair belonging to other ladies but spend less time doing that and start appreciating your own head of hair more often. It’s taken me a long time to come to this conclusion. I spent so much time picking apart all of my hair’s “faults” that I never really took the time to appreciate it for what it is in it’s current situation.

When you finally stop fretting over why your hair doesn’t appear to be gaining much length, one day you may be surprised to wake up and discover it has grown significantly….like a foot’s worth….ok probably not that much but one can dream 🙂

Have you ever felt like you were doing everything possible to nourish your hair but it seemed to remain the same?


Michelle Smith
Michelle is a Christian special needs mom residing in the NYC area who shares useful tips to grow and maintain fine natural hair. She's a published author and Creator of Fine Natural Hair and Faith, inspiring others with faith for living along side knowledge on how to care for their "crown."

2 Comment

  1. That is so true Michelle, trying to get bra strap length, so been saying oh while, i just take care of my hair being healthy, that’s it, I am tired, so I am thankful, thanks for sharing.

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