“When it rains it pours.” You’ve probably heard that saying before. Sometimes everything seems to go wrong at the same time. It’s very easy to get stuck and overwhelmed with your circumstances and then you may think you don’t care anymore. It’s really like sticking your head in the sand.
I know those feelings all too well. I experience them as I struggle with healthy eating. I look at my body in the mirror and think, “I hate what I’ve done to my body. How could I allow myself to eat to the point that I’m so out of shape? it’s too hard to give up all the foods I love.”
All of these thoughts are just examples of negative reinforcements that lead you to where you don’t want your life to be in the first place. Continuing to “negative self talk,” keeps you at a stand still. You don’t do because you don’t believe you can. Oh yes, I struggle with this all the time but…
If you give up and stop caring, you never get to taste victory.. It’s like seeing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and never getting to touch it…or spend it…or cash it in…or whatever you do with a pot of gold!
So, how do you get past those feelings of defeat reinforced by negative self talk? You look to God.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried out and asked God to help me. Usually, through my tears I find strength to go on, to push forward. Telling yourself you don’t care is taking the easy way out. What you’re doing is you are making an excuse to give up. Trust me. I know.
Find Your Why
I was about to eat this candy one day (sounds like it’s not that big a deal but keep reading) but having just 1 piece of candy leads me to binge. I had already been experiencing symptoms of inflammation from sugar consumption in my body so needing to give up candy for the long haul is critical to my health.
For years, I had this internal battle. I’d tell myself I just did not care. One more piece of candy won’t hurt. Well, on that particular day, I recognized that it could hurt and that I needed to break the cycle and I
did DO CARE!! My body is the temple of God and I need to honor Him with it. That’s one reason why I have to care about what I put into this body. That’s one reason why I have to exercise it and treat it right.
My son is my other why. Having a child with special needs means I need to take care of myself so that I will be able to take care of Him. He’s a major reason why I MUST care and not allow myself to cop out and be weak. Telling myself I don’t care is like saying I don’t care about him. At least, that’s how I’m choosing to look at it because it makes me really think twice.
When you find yourself struggling with temptations or just life in general, find your “why” and focus on it. Your “why” will prevent you from giving up prematurely and telling yourself you don’t care. For me, the struggle is eating healthy. For you it may be something else. Whatever it is, find your reason why you really do care and you will have won half the battle.