Can’t Keep Up? 7 Ways to Avoid Natural Hair Overwhelm

Last updated on February 6th, 2023 at 09:34 pm

At the beginning of every year folks make new year’s resolutions. Many ladies will decide to no longer put chemicals in their hair, ditch the relaxed hair and start embracing their natural texture. The useful information you find in this blog post will help you to avoid natural hair overwhelm if you are transitioning OR simply overwhelmed by your natural hair.

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It doesn’t matter if you are entering a new year looking to make some changes or if going natural has just been a long time coming. Perhaps you’ve experienced hair loss. Maybe you’re curious about the natural hair movement and want a new style.

You’ve seen ladies with long hair all over social media. Maybe it was a curly girl with long hair that’s flourishing with her natural curl pattern.

When deciding to go natural you may start scouring magazines, books and the internet for information on how to make the task less daunting. You’ll read tons of information and some of it will be conflicting advice from the different sources.

How Can a Former Straight Hair Girl Avoid Natural Hair Overwhelm?

While much of the information you find will be on point, it may not necessarily apply to your hair or lifestyle. It can be difficult to know what to do.

It may difficult to know things like:

  • what products will work best for your hair in its natural state
  • do you trim or not trim? if trim, when?
  • what your hair type is
  • do you have to do protective styles?
  • should you big chop?
  • to use protein or not
  • what are the best hair products to use (leave-in conditioner? deep conditioner? sulfate-free shampoo?? oh my!)
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All of the natural hair talk can seem like noise to a lady who’s transitioning or has just come in to her natural curls.

As if black women or other women of color don’t have enough to worry about. It can all seem so overwhelming.

Well, not to fret, below you’ll find actionable tips so you can develop a healthy hair regimen and greatly improve the health of your hair.

Below are 7 tips to help you avoid natural hair overwhelm cut through the natural hair noise so that you can go about your natural hair journey with more ease.

Understand your porosity

hair porosity

If I only had one tip to share it would be this. Understand your hair’s porosity level.

This can be tricky but once you understand your hair’s porosity, you’ll know exactly what your hair routines should be and how to carry out doing them. You’ll also know what ingredients to look for in your hair products.

Here’s a simple explanation for hair porosity:

Low porosity hair has a tight cuticle layer and it’s difficult to get moisture in but once it’s in, this porosity type maintains moisture for longer periods of time.

High porosity hair has a very loose cuticle layer and while it’s easy to get moisture in to the hair strand, the moisture is quite easily lost as well.

Medium porosity hair is a happy medium. No pun intended.

Note: If you have a lot of relaxed hair still remaining, 99% chance you have high porosity hair due to the chemical changes that have taken place in your hair shaft.

Don’t jump on bandwagons 

Resist trying all the different methods and products because everyone else says so. In other words, don’t give birth to a product junkie. Your hair and your wallet will thank you.

Instead, focus on these things:

  • Finding the right products for YOUR hair so you can give
  • Focusing on a a simple style that you can do most of the time. For example, two-strand twists, box braids or an easy curly hairstyle
  • Spend much time on building your hair care routines. For example, your wash day routines (This hair care planner will greatly help you to define all of your routines)

Keep a natural hair journal

Keeping a hair journal is a good thing to do and is extremely useful for someone just starting their transition or a new natural.

The reason a natural hair journal is so helpful is it can help you to see what you need to do to your hair on a regular basis. It will also help you to keep track of different styles you may want to try and also keep track of your favorite products.

You can track what works and doesn’t work for your hair (New Products and Methods) while you are either transitioning or just learning your hair. Remember, it’s a journey not a sprint to the finish.

Consider your information source

Unless the source of hair “information” has a significant amount of hair retained on her (or his) own head, keep it moving.

That’s not to say that people with short hair can’t retain length. Some ladies prefer to maintain short hair. However, if you notice someone is struggling with their own hair care regimen, that person is probably not a good source to learn from.

Find a few reliable sources

If you are seeking information to help you on your natural hair journey, find a few reliable sources that provide information on natural hair care and stick with those. For example, Fine Natural Hair and Faith is on YouTube – you’ll find videos created typically for those with fine natural hair.

PRO TIP: Even reliable sources contain information that don’t not jive with your personal natural hair journey. As my grandma would say, “Eat the meat and throw away the bones.”

Focus on one condition at a time to avoid natural hair overwhelm

While on your quest to optimal hair care, focus on one condition at a time – starting with the most urgent.

For example, if you have problems with breakage, limp hair and styling, focus on getting to the root of your breakage first. Olaplex for curly hair products can help.

For example, you may need to learn about how to incorporate using a particular hair mask into your regimen so that your hair stays moisturized.

Once you’ve addressed particular hair concerns then, you can research styling techniques.

Trying to combat all of your hair problems at once can be mind boggling.

Set hair goals

set hair goals

When you are focused on YOUR hair, you’ll be less focused on others. Everyone’s hair grows at different rates.

By setting your own realistic goals, you can focus on what you need to do for your hair. This takes the focus off what everyone else is doing with their hair and ultimately reduces a big cause of natural hair overwhelm – COMPARISON.

There you have it…my top seven tips to help you transition to natural hair or simply, avoid natural hair overwhelm. Yes, a lot of it is noise. It’s noise that comes from:

  • articles that preach a one size fits all method
  • comments on natural hair blogs from clearly uninformed or ignorant women who haven’t even figured out their own natural hair journey yet

Below are some additional pointers to keep in mind. You’ll want to file these in the back of your mind (or pin this article for later).

These tips can further aid you in preventing natural hair overwhelm.

Dealing with New Growth

When you decide to go natural or rather return to natural, you will have to deal with two different textures of hair. This is a result of your new growth.

If you have been struggling with your transition because you have a bunch of new growth that is starkly different from your relaxed hair, here are some things to keep in mind:

  • The demarcation line between your relaxed and natural hair is the weakest point of your hair.
  • To avoid breakage at the demarcation line, keep the two textures blended.

You can keep relaxed hair and natural hair blended in two ways:

  1. Using a blow dryer to manually “stretch” your hair. The RevAir is revolutionary and IMHO, the best hair dryer for black natural hair. It’s a curly girl’s best hair tool because it uses a reverse air drying technology.
  2. Sit under a dryer with rollers after wash and deep conditioning your hair.

Both of these methods are in fact, great ways to make it through the transitioning process with less breakage. That’s because they smooth out and blend your natural and relaxed hairs together.

Natural Resources to Keep on Hand

natural resources

Aside from your regular store bought hair products like shampoo and a specialty treatment, here are a few natural resources you should always keep on hand:

  • Shea Butter
  • Olive Oil
  • Aloe Vera (juice and gel)
  • Certain Essential Oils

These resources from nature can be used in a pinch when you have run out of your favorite hair products or need to improve other hair products that you don’t want to toss.

Related: Best Essential Oils for Curly Hair

I did not list coconut oil which I’m sure you’ve heard of being used quite popularly in the natural hair community.

The reason is, unless you are quite experienced with using coconut oil in your hair, you can become discouraged by it.

Here’s all you need to know about using coconut oil in your hair:
How to Use Coconut Oil for Curly Hair

Heat Damage and Black Hair

Should you choose to straighten your hair with heat, use a heat protectant product. Yet, make no mistake. Straightening even with heat protectants, does not cut out the risk of getting heat damage. It only lessons the risk.

While you are learning your newly natural hair, it’s best to avoid heat for at least the first year. That’s just my opinion

I speak as someone with finer hair that’s more fragile but I think it’s beneficial to avoid using heat until you have mastered your hair regimen.

Once you are a little bit more in tune with what your hair needs, you can straighten sparingly.

If you have short natural hair and are looking to grow longer hair, you should go months without straightening your hair before doing so again. Just stick with short styles that don’t add stress to your hair.

This doesn’t include a blow dryer which doesn’t give you direct contact with the heat source. I’m referring to heat tools like flat irons, curling irons and hot rollers.

Using a warm dryer is key to reducing knots and tangles that lead to hair breakage. The RevAir is my go-to no heat damage dryer.

stretching curly hair with heat
The Goat of Drying Curly Hair

Related: How to Do a Wavy Twist Out

To See a Hair Stylist or Not?

Deciding to see a hair stylist is a personal decision that should not be taking lightly. Not everyone with the title actually knows what they’re doing.

If you would prefer to see a stylist for help or even just regular trims, try to find someone by referral.

Even if you do choose to see a hairstylist, in order to prevent natural hair overwhelm, you’ll still want to do the work needed to learn about your personal hair texture, porosity, and the best way to care for it.

Where to Next?

If you have medium length hair that you want to take longer, check out this resource: Caring for Medium Length Natural Hair

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  1. Mochacurls says:

    Great tips – especially about the protein. I had a bad experience matting, dryness – it was horrible. I tried everything I read to repair my hair but it just ended up in worse condition. So I learned to be a bit more judicious when considering recommendations from others.

    My stylist recommended protein treatments since I was transitioning and I love it! I was afraid b/c of my past experience but since I’ve been getting them my hair has really been flourishing. I bought the Aubrey’s GPB so I’m going to try it in a few weeks. Moderation is the key for me.

    1. I agree. Moderation is key. I think that if you are taking pretty good care of your hair (not abusing it), protein treatments are not needed every week.

      I think you will LOVE the GPB

      Thanks for commenting 🙂

  2. Hi Michelle,

    I’ve been to your products page, so how did I miss your blog??? It’s really entertaining. Thanks for the transitioning tips. We transitioners really need to learn how to stay focused on our journey; I often need reminding.

    1. Hey Lavendar. I guess I need to connect my blog better on my e-store 🙂 Thanks for the comment. I aim to entertain…..sometimes. A cross between that and sharing what I know 🙂

  3. Yeah lol, I know a LOT of product junkies! I’m kind of an “old head natural,” if you will, so a lot of these products weren’t really available when I went natural ten years ago, I just used what my mother bought lol! I was young and stumbled along learning as much as I could on my own, read what I could until I got the money to get my own stuff. 😀

    And aww thanks, please do check it out and let us know what you think about the guide, we appreciate it!!
    Here’s the link for convenience:

    1. Hey Crystal-

      I got it yesterday and read it already LOL. It’s a wonderful read. You shared some GREAT information. I learned a lot too LOL. The info. on the differenty types of surfactants was very interesting.

      I started writing a Squidoo page a while back sharing the best free beauty guides around the web and I am going to include this one. I’ll send you a link to it when it’s finished.

      1. Wow, thanks for the feedback! It is certainly humbling to hear such praise and I am so glad that you learned something from it. Please do share the guide link on your squidoo page. You are welcome to send a note to your email list or retweet the page on Twitter!

        Enjoy your weekend.
        – Crystal

  4. Hey there!

    Number 5 is spot on, I’m always telling people not to overwhelm themselves with their hair routine. When people try to do too much, they give up!

    I would say patience and determination are pretty helpful too!

    1. You’re right about that! When I started learning to care for my hair, I literally bought any and everything just because someone else said it was good. 85% of the stuff was no good for my particular hair.

      And while I still use TONS of products, I only use the ones that I like 🙂

      Oh and you know I’m picking up your hair guide!

  5. Chanel Tonè says:

    I’m just absouletly spoiled and I know it’s doing some serious wear and tear on my hair but I can not live without my relaxers!

    1. Ha ha Chanel, sure you can! I thought the same thing. As a matter of fact when I transitioned I relaxed twice thinking I couldn’t take it.

      My saving graace? The dominicans. That’s right. I went to them faithfully to blow my new growth straight so that I’d be able to keep the two textures blended until I was ready to cut off the relaxer. I kept it up til I reached a little past ear length

  6. natural hair products says:

    This post helps to the selection process of hair-products. It can be provide guidance to the buyers.I like it so much as it is informative and easy to understand. Thanks for this helps..

  7. Nice post Michelle!! Really good advice … and a lot more succinct than mine;)! LOL!!

    1. hey there’s something to be said for lengthy posts. It’s your specialty 🙂

  8. I really liked your list. I plan to focus on #2. Their is a women who works in my building who keeps telling me that I won’t stick with being natural. She says that she’s natural, but I have never seen curly hair on her head. She presses her hair all the time and now I believe that our hair is about the same length now. Her hair looks damaged from the heat. I plan to keep doing my thing and see who reaches their goals first.

    1. Well just because she presses, that doesn’t make her not natural. She’s still natural, she’s just damaging her hair by constantly pressing.

      I agree with you about sticking to what’s working for you though. Only you know what works for your hair.

  9. Hey Michelle,

    Nice tips!

    If there is one thing I have had to learn is to not be a product junkie and save my money. I can kick myself for all the money I’ve spent on hair products, but this year, is different. I’ve found the products I like and I’m sticking with them.

    #7. Budget for hair care products and hair related things.

    This year, I will set aside 5-10 dollars a week (could be more) in an envelope labeled hair product and accessory money and when I need something and I know I will make a purchase, I’ll take that envelope with me. This will help me stay on the right path of product junkie recovery. It really feels good knowing that I won’t be spending money just because.

    Oh, and no more bandwagons for me…I’m done with that.

    Again, good tips Michelle!

    1. That’s a great idea re: the envelope. You know I was living off the envelope system before where I’d put gas money in one envelope, laundry money in another envelope and spending money in another. This way I wouldn’t be tempted to overspend.

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