What I Learned About My Natural Hair in 2013

Last updated on November 16th, 2019 at 08:40 pm

Lessons of discovery – natural hair and what makes/keeps it healthy

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January is all about new beginnings and what better way to start the year off than to reflect on what you learned from the previous year? Since this is a beauty blog, let’s start with hair! Before I get into it, check out this fun review of my natural hair throughout last year:

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2013 was one heck of a year. If you have been on a hair journey for as long as I have (over 10 years….I’m no longer counting), it’s tempting to think you’ve got this whole natural hair care thing down to a science. And while it is sort of scientific, a lot of caring for your natural hair is intuitive.

I’ve learned some very specific things about my natural hair last year – things that can make or break a healthy regimen including hair growth and length retention. Now, for my little disclaimer…

What I’m about to share you may not exactly agree with.  Remember though, this post is all about what I learned about MY natural hair LOL

While much of what I have learned comes from the trial and error of using multiple hair products, some of what I learned comes from trying specific hair care techniques. I guess you can call them the nuts and bolts of hair care. OK. Let’s get to what I learned (I’m going to list them out to make it all plain ya see!)

  1. Being a product junky is not productive. While it may be fun to experiment with different brands, (especially those that smell so good!  B.A.S.K. ring a bell? LOL!) using a bunch of products when you don’t really know what your hair takes to, does not help you get any closer to your hair goals. If you are using 30 different conditioners and 17 different stylers on a rotational basis, which one (or two) is best for your hair? There’s no way to really know until you narrow them down. And, narrow them down I have.
  2. Why cutting your hair has nothing to do with hair growth. Now, this one I’ve known for quite some time now but it was further reinforced last year after doing several trims. Hair grows from the root. The health of your scalp has more to do with hair growth than the ends of your hair. Sure, split ends can leave your hair looking raggedy. There’s also an increase in tangling when there are a lot of split ends. However, split end or no split end, you can still grow your hair down your back without ever trimming it. And, when you eliminate heat styling and rough handling, you’ll find you don’t need to trim as often. I’ve discovered that I can simply trim off the pesky SSKs (single strand knots), and keep my ends relatively healthy. It’s sort of like the SnD (search and destroy) method only I’m not searching for splits. My hair is so darn fine, I can’t see them anyway! Instead, I feel for tiny little knots. When I find them, I snip them off. Simple.
  3. Whoever said washing your hair weekly was the rule? For years, I washed my hair once a week because that’s what I thought everyone else did (Well, except those chicks who wash daily. Who has time for that?!) On the contrary, I found that washing my hair bi-weekly is way better. Now, this may change as my hair gets longer or if I choose to switch my products up but for now, bi-weeky washings it is.
  4. My scalp does not like JBCO (Jamaican Black Castor Oil). I know a lot of ladies swear by the use of JBCO, how it stimulates hair growth and such. It never worked for me. Not only that, it made my scalp itch like crazy. The whole time I thought I just had itchy scalp but when I eliminated JBCO from my hair care regimen, my scalp was fine.
  5. Silicones are a God-send. I know. I know. So many naturals say that silicones are evil, build up on your hair and doesn’t allow it to breathe. The Curly Girl Method is the only way for naturally curly hair. Blah Blah Blah. The fact of the matter is with hair like mine that tends to frizz, silicones are my friend. They help keep my hair smooth and free of fly-aways. As far as build up, I never have moisture retention problems and one apple cider vinegar rinse takes care of any build up (however slight).
  6. Protective styling only works sometimes. Braids and mini twists take a lot of manipulation to  install and while I don’t add hair, I find that too much manipulation on my fine strands causes breakage. The only way it would be worth it is if I kept them in for at least a month and there’s no way that’s happening (#HairADD LOL)! The most effective protective styles are those that I don’t need to re-do daily (ex; side buns tied down at night, large twists that I can pin up ) and/or don’t require much handling. That’s why I looooove my banana clip. I don’t have to detangle my hair to style with it.
  7. Ouchless elastic bands aren’t really ouchless. I may be special but my hair still gets tangled when removing Ouchless elastic bands. The Ouchless ribbon bands work much better and never get stuck in my hair. When doing a ponytail of some sort, it’s best to use either the ribbon band or a satin scrunchy.

I told you what I learned about my hair may not be what works for everyone. The great thing about having natural hair is YOU get to discover whatever it is that works for your hair. If you haven’t quite figured it all out yet, maybe some of what I’ve shared may help 🙂

What have you discovered about your natural hair in the past year(s)?

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  1. I just stumbled onto your blog. The longer I let my hair grow the more tangled it gets. At least before I started deep conditioning regularly. I’ve set myself back, especially after getting layers two years ago. Now I believe I m on the right path

    Love your blog.

    1. Hi Veronica. I know what you mean. I’m dealing with some family problems right now and have pretty much neglected my hair. I am doing a cowash here or there but no detangling. I’m just out of it.

  2. You have beautiful hair! I did my BC in March 2013, and my natural hair journey has been really exciting. I love being able to switch from my natural hair one week to a totally different protective style the next. And as a fellow fine-haired natural, I can relate to a lot of your tips. Like you said, it’s important to find what works for your hair because everyone is different.

  3. I need to do one of these!! I did one in 2012, if I remember correctly. I’ve actually been thinking about it since the end of last year. Anywho, I learned:

    1. My hair does better with wet detangling only. I lose a lot less hair and am able to detangle just fine without thorough finger detangling during a pre-poo. I just smooth my pre-poo on my hair now when I do it with some minimal separation detangling to make sure I decently get each section.

    2. My hair LOVES goat milk in styling product and deep conditioner!!! My hair has been rejuvenated by it, especially my ends, which were starting to feel rough, and my stubborn crown has softened and become more supple and stronger, I think!

    3. I have to wash my hair weekly when working out hard and sweating a lot (like with hot yoga) or detangling on wash day becomes a nightmare.

    4. Cosmetic grade aloe vera gel works well for my hair now in sets and to smooth/set edges in bun (I think this is partly because my hair is behaving so well with goat milk added to my regimen).

    5. The braid n’ twist n’ curl is my new go to style because the braids keep my roots smooth, but the twists gives me more fullness with no separation required as removing the three sections of the braid does all the separation needed. The BnTnC also dries more quickly than a braid out.


    1. I have yet to try the goat’s milk recipe since I have been ill but I do want to try it.
      AVG is my boo thang! LOL

  4. Thanks a lot by helping me with all recommendations about how to take care our natural hair. I love this site and I’ll continue to follow you because I love my natural hair.

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